Being single and being introverted can sometimes lead someone down the path of self-involvement and self-absorption. I don’t think it’s deliberate — by nature, many introverts are loners; we spend a lot of time by ourselves so we tend to put ourselves first.
Wanting to have time for yourself to decompress and recharge is perfectly legit and perfectly healthy.
For me, the struggle has always been balancing my need for alone time against my needing/wanting to spend time with family or help them out with stuff. I cannot apologize enough for the times I’ve gotten uptight because I felt my opprtunities for “escape” were being taken away or delayed.
It feels good to help, to spend that time with family. The “me” time will come later. I need to keep reminding myself of that. 😄