I read somewhere that the personality traits and behaviors established in us at the age of 7 or 8 are the same ones we’ll be exhibiting at the age of, say, 36. Not sure I completely agree with that. I know that I was awfully shy at that age – now I’m not shy so much as I am just very quiet.
We’re all wired differently, and to varying degrees. Some of us are naturally prone to be gregarious and sociable, able to walk up to virtually anyone and strike up a conversation. Some of us are naturally more withdrawn and tend to stick to ourselves. We enjoy other people’s company, but in smaller doses. Some of us say whatever’s on our mind and aren’t afraid to speak out, even at the possible expense of others’ feelings. Some of us are more passive-aggressive; if we have an issue with someone or are upset at that person, our feelings manifest themselves in more subtle ways – or we just suppress it all until it comes out at once, usually at the wrong moment. 😦
The downside of being wired as an introvert is my tendency to be self-involved and rather inflexible. I have a plan in my head, and when something messes with that plan, my first reaction is to get upset. That sounds weird and maybe kind of stupid, but that’s me. That’s a part of my personality that I consistently struggle against. In some cases, I end up hurting feelings. That makes me feel even worse, because I don’t like stepping on toes or displeasing others.
Has anyone else dealt with stuff like that? How do you try to get past that aspect of your personality?